What are your child or teen’s in-born strengths? How often do you notice what your child has done right before what they have done wrong?
Strength-based parenting is an approach where parents deliberately focus on the positive qualities of their child and help your child to connect with their in-born strengths such as kindness, persistence, agility or humour. You could think of it as ‘strength spotting’.
If, as a family, we help each other to cultivate positive states, then this is protective in terms of mental health as well as life satisfaction and self-confidence. Psychologists, Professor Lea Waters at the University of Melbourne, has developed a web service; The Strength Exchange, as a resource for parents.
There are also a number of online surveys that children can take to help them identify and think about their strengths. The Gallup Institute has the StrengthsExplorer for children aged 10-14 and the StrengthsQuest for children aged 15-25. If parents and children are interested in identifying personality strengths, they can go to The Values in Action Institute and complete the free online VIA-Youth survey.
You can also talk to one of our Psychologists at Caloundra Psychological Services about using strength-based parenting.
Do you frequently have an irresistible urge to buy more than you can afford to the point where shopping takes up so much time it interferes with daily living? Compulsive buying, like other addictions can occur to counteract feelings of low self-esteem, depression or unhappiness with life situations.
Cognitive Behaivour Therapy and building self-esteem can help to understand the drivers behind overshopping and help to develop more adaptive coping skills.
Contact us to arrange for a private session to discuss your own personal challenges.